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I Didn’t Choose the Writer’s Life

It’s amazing just how different the life we live is from the life we thought we would have. Growing up I wanted nothing more than to be a lawyer. I love debate. I love proving my opinion right. I love finding fault or holes in arguments which directly contradict mine. I am a naturally born litigator. Fast forward 35 years with a few food service jobs, 10 years of bartending, and 15 years of self-employment as a web designer and here I am, naturally, a writer.

Some could argue, and I probably would be the first in line to concur – writing allows me to give my opinions, my views, my thoughts, on subjects without arguing and in turn it allows others to subjectively look at what’s written as seen through their own eyes – everyone’s happy and no one goes to jail.

Robert Burns once lamented, “The bestlaid plans of mice and men often go awry.” They most certainly do. I can’t say I never thought of writing as a career. In fact, my sophomore year of college, I had all intentions in the world to write for the big screen. I was going to make it to Hollywood and write the next blockbuster straight out of the gate. Unfortunately for me, the gate never opened. I stayed on the east coast and so the story goes.  One door closes and another one opens. We choose the paths based on our needs and most times our comfort levels.

The desire always sat just inside my rear view until again a twist of fate would have me rethinking “what’s this life for?” Six years in a terrible marriage left me near penniless and wondering just what I was going to do when I grew up.  I found myself burned out from web design. Tired of chasing payments from clients and most of all, I felt chained down by life in general.  I had spent far too many years as my own boss to work for someone else. I found myself once again wanting to write. With 20 more years of life experiences, I finally had something to write about. But would people read? Would others relate? W

My father had passed away 10 years prior, he was the nudge I always needed to try anything difficult in life. Whether I succeeded or failed, I needed to give writing a shot. I had let it eat at me for too long – the time was at hand. I am proud and happy I did. The number of creative souls I have met along this short 3-year journey, into full-time writing has been astounding. But what really confirms I made the right choice are the countless individuals I have reached with my writing.  The support I have received through comments, letters, messages and fans, to me is immeasurable.  I have always stated, ‘without you I have no voice.’ It rings true daily. My words would be but ink stains on a page had it not been for the positive feedback I’ve received and continue to receive daily.

The life we live isn’t always the life we choose. I’m so very thankful for that.


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  1. Candy Candy

    Thanks for sharing your story Jay! It is truly inspiring!! <3

  2. Colleen Law-Tefft Colleen Law-Tefft

    Thanks for sharing Jay. 🙂 I truly believe things happen for a reason and bring you where you need to be. <3

  3. cathleen neese cathleen neese

    We don’t always get what we want and thank God for that 🙂 Well articulated Jay, thanks for paying it forward, I will never be famous but what I have learned from this group is so much more valuable 🙂

  4. Amanda Amanda

    A True blessing the way life happens, despite of our planning and doing. So happy for you also. Thank you for endless beautyful heart grabbing posts

  5. Amy Turner Amy Turner

    Following your calling requires courage and vulnerability daily. What strength and bravery it takes to open yourself up to this world. It also truly takes humility which you show throughout your work and is one of your best assets. Thank you for giving people your words to relate to, as most have high walls that prevent them from being brave, vulnerable and humble.

  6. Julie Hallett Julie Hallett

    You’ve inspired me to write and self publish. Thank you

  7. Sherri Sherri

    The life you’re living has forever touched mine and for that I’m thankful.

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